MPW Insider is an online community where the biggest names in business and beyond answer timely career and leadership questions. Today’s answer for: Why is it important to have a mentor? Is written by Shiza Shahid, co-founder and ambassador of Malala Fund.
Contrary to what many people may advise, I think we all need to stop looking for mentors. Today, it appears as if every young professional is desperate to find “the one” person that will guarantee their career advancement. I’ll admit I’ve had some wonderful mentors who have guided and supported me throughout my career. But we attract mentors to ourselves because of our performance, not our neediness. So instead of searching for a mentor, I think we should focus on creating a community of dynamic peers . We need “friend-tors” more than mentors. As we begin our careers, it’s imperative that we create a community of peers that will push us to succeed .
A “peer” is someone who is at a similar level of success or achievement as yourself. Someone who you can learn from, but also provide advice in return. It is a mutually beneficial relationship. When I decided to start the Malala Fund, I knew it would be a major entrepreneurial undertaking. I was determined to base my startup in New York, despite never having lived there. But I knew NY would provide the type of entrepreneurial community that would accept and support a then 23-year old with big dreams to change the world.
And I was right. It wasn’t easy being a young entrepreneur, but luckily I had a great group of peers to help me along the way. They taught me how to build a startup from literally nothing at an extremely accelerated pace. They helped me push through when things got tough . And most importantly , they broadened my horizons with the work they were doing.
So my advice to young professionals is: stop seeking mentors in the hopes that they will “lift” you up. Instead, go out and create a community that will push you, support you, and teach you. And always remember to give more than you take, because that will lead to the greatest success.
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