Why working from home isn’t for everyone: ‘I feel like I lost a piece of my identity’

– Missing the office.  It’s practically become the consensus that remote work is the preferred arrangement for employees, particularly women. But some haven’t thrived in a virtual setting, and many say the concomitant isolation and burnout now outweigh the benefits.

In a candid article, Coins2Day executive editor Lindsey Stanberry unpacks how remote work gradually made her feel like her identity as an ambitious journalist, with husband and child in tow, slowly eroded away. Below is an excerpt from her essay, out this morning.

I am holding tight to a deeply unpopular opinion: I want to go back to the office. And I want everyone to come back with me.

I’m fairly vocal about this opinion with close-knit colleagues. Most think I’m crazy and many disagree with me. They’re surprised to find me aligning myself with Elon Musk and David Solomon. I guess I’m more surprised that I’m so alone in the desire to be back.

I’m well aware of all the reasons why no one else is interested in returning to the office—though some excuses are more valid than others: The pandemic isn’t over; childcare is unpredictable; the commute is terrible; a typical 9-to-5 day at the office isn’t sustainable for working parents; the pets will miss us; work clothes are uncomfortable; and people are more productive at home. 

I get it. But I don’t like it. And I can’t help but wonder if it’s inertia that’s keeping us all from putting on some hard pants and resuming our daily commutes. Yes, we just spent the last two-plus years proving that we could successfully work from home, but those were extraordinary years. Arguably, we had no other choice. Even those among us who never, ever want to step into an office again can likely agree that the last two years absolutely sucked.

There’s a deeply personal reason why I want to go back to the office. It’s selfish, but I don’t care. I feel like I lost a piece of my identity in the pandemic—the busy, thriving editor and New Yorker who had a packed calendar and plenty of reasons to throw on a dress and a cute pair of shoes. I’m worried that I won’t truly find myself again if I have to work from home for the rest of my life.

I think a lot about life before the pandemic, and I marvel at all I used to get done. How did I do it all? And will I ever be that successful again?

Read the full, riveting essay from Lindsey here.

Paige McGlauflin
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